1. Be funny. Kind-spirited humor can douse a hot argument, head off a fight, and turn the drudgery of household responsibilities and planning into something witty, smart, and hilarious. Stick with warm humor; sarcasm and snide remarks aren't relationship-builders.

    2. Be kissy. Saluting your spouse with a longer-than-usual kiss in the morning, at the end of the workday, and before you say good night telegraphs the good news that you still find him or her irresistible and wonderful.

    3. Be appreciative. You can never appreciate your spouse too much. He or she needs to hear how much you admire the way he or she gets the bills paid, organizes the kids' activities, made that tasty shrimp scampi last night, rewired the basement, cleared out three months' worth of old magazines from beside the couch, or got the trash out to the curb just in time for pickup.

    4. Be surprising. Bring home an unexpected little gift. Get the car serviced before he changes the oil. Deliver breakfast in bed next Saturday （then pop a Looney Tunes DVD into the TV for the kids and lock your bedroom door）.

    5. Be historical. Play the songs you two loved best when you were courting. Bring out your wedding album after dinner and leaf through it together. Bring up the good times from your past -- you'll both get a glow and feel lifted up as you remember your passion.

    6. Be forgetful. Forgive your spouse's human shortcomings, then forget them. Nobody's perfect, especially under stress. （Hmmm … could that include you?） Graciously overlooking flaws, errors, and gaffes sets a sweetly gracious tone for your relationship.

    1. 讓自己變得搞笑一點(diǎn)：善意的開開玩笑可以平息爭吵，讓干家務(wù)這件苦差事變成一件詼諧、滑稽的事情。但是切記玩笑要開得適宜，且不可有對兩性關(guān)系不利的諷刺挖苦的成分。

    2 . 獻(xiàn)上你的親吻： 早晨醒來的時(shí)候、結(jié)束一天工作的時(shí)候甚至說晚安的時(shí)候，向你的愛人獻(xiàn)上一個(gè)深深的吻，這讓他/她知道在你眼里他/她還是那么的迷人。

    3. 欣賞你的愛人：記住"再怎么欣賞你的愛人都不為過".無論是在把帳單付好的時(shí)候，或者組織好孩子活動的時(shí)候，還是昨晚做了美味的龍蝦，把地下室的電線重新接好了，把積累了三個(gè)月的舊雜志從沙發(fā)邊清理出去了， 垃圾拎出門正好趕上收垃圾車的時(shí)候，你的愛人都需要聽到你對他/她的贊美。

    4. 帶給他/她驚喜：回家給他/她帶個(gè)意外的小禮物吧。在他給汽車加油前偷偷先把車洗了。 周六的早晨把早餐端到床上去。（給孩子們放《巨星總動員》的動畫片，然后你們倆鎖上臥室門該干嘛干嘛吧！）

    5.懷念往昔美好歲月：放放談戀愛的時(shí)候你們倆最愛聽的歌。晚餐后把結(jié)婚相冊翻出來一起瀏覽一番。談?wù)勥^去美好的時(shí)光--想起往日的愛戀會讓彼此覺得心滿意足、激情澎湃。

    6. 學(xué)會忘記：對愛人的缺點(diǎn)要寬容，然后忘記它們。人無完人，特別是在壓力之下。（嗯，你也是那樣的吧？） 以優(yōu)雅的方式忽略對方的缺點(diǎn)、錯(cuò)誤、丑態(tài)能夠?yàn)槟銈兊年P(guān)系定下甜蜜、親切的基調(diào)。